There are no disagreements among the experts and researchers regarding its influence and the place that body language occupies in interpersonal communication.
But if you connect the tone of voice with eye contact together you get about 93.00% which is the total volume of the entire communication.
That leaves only a measly 7 percent for words.
In other words, most of the communication is realized not by what we say – but how we say them. The body is responsible for the emotions we convey through it, and the words only deal with rational understanding.
The big problem is that when we internalize the enormous importance of words in relation to what we see and in relation to what we hear – then a huge frustration must arise in us, because if the body represents the true self, we are lost because we are captives in a world of words. And this is because we simply do not speak the language of the body. We do not understand the signals that others send us,
And so a paradox was created: it is difficult for us to come to terms with the fact that body language is so effective that it forms the core of interpersonal communication.
Because we are used to referring only to words, whether written or oral and language
The body is perceived as background noise, for example: when the chair suddenly moves backwards, we tell ourselves that it is because of a matter of comfort.
The body transmits something that neither the receiver nor the transmitter is aware of.
We learned to ignore the body’s signals.
And so it happens that a person can learn body language, but since everything is based on logic, it is very difficult for him to assimilate what he learned about body language – and then he soon slides into the safe place of words.
And this is that although in the behavioral sciences they insist on 90 percent dominance of tone of voice and eye contact – we firmly refuse to use body language consciously while taking responsibility for what our body and voice transmit. So after learning a little about body language – we immediately rush to suppress our signals, whether visual or auditory.
And so it is precisely after body language has been scientifically validated that we stop using it consciously. Just the mind is too domineering.
It did start with a huge curiosity about the body’s transmitters, but our entire system is so enslaved to the kingdom of words – that the body’s transmitters are pushed into a corner.
Body language should be as natural to us as it is to animals, but we invented a foreign language, the language of words, and our root and original language is not in use.
We live only with the help of reason and logic, and suppress the emotional transmitters of the body.
And after we got a glimpse of the secrets of the body, it’s time to take the body out of the shackles of the tyrannical mind and all the vital channels of the body get covered in dust, become blurred – and we abandon the wisdom of the body and instead want back the garlic and onions we ate in Egypt
The body and the wisdom of the body can save us from the dominance of the intellectual mind that we have reigned over our media life.
And so words are conducted without prompting and our attitude towards our body and that of others is becoming flat, and there is no awareness of the transmitter that is hidden behind the words.
And if a few years ago we had body language as a tempting gift, today it has returned to the bosom of reason – and the body remains only an accessory of convenience.
We live upside down. The body should set the tone in the relationship, not the flat and one-dimensional mind.
In conclusion – we discovered body language for several decades, but today the whole subject of body language has become more and more blurred. We return to a body stopped within itself. When the words came back to take the throne.
Gabriel