What do adults not understand about children?
They don’t understand the fact that to be a child growing up in a world of adults, is to be helpless first of all.
It is very complicated because the parents expect the child not to be helpless, on the other hand he must not show that he is helpless. Because then he will receive a reprimand from the parents, how come he is helpless.
The biggest problem we must not be helpless.
But the basic existential condition of man in the world – which is an uncertain and uncertain world – is to be helpless.
And if you want to do justice to a person, treat him as a helpless god.
Because in such a world you have to raise your head and ask “what’s going on here”?
But no one will allow you to wallow in helplessness, you will be told things like “why are you indulging”?
Take yourself in your hands, by saying you are helpless you are taking privilege for yourself.
We suppress helplessness and we refuse to admit that in the face of the universe and in the face of the riddle of creation, we are extremely helpless.
We are fundamentally helpless, from the moment of birth and throughout childhood I do not get out of the state of helplessness, we get lost even deeper within it.
Helplessness can only be strengthened and encouraged by compassion and empathy.
But we have no compassion for them, we think that on purpose they make themselves helpless. They make our lives difficult. We want to think that if they want to, they can overcome helplessness. And that is not true. Helplessness is the basic condition of man.
Part of the difficulty of the parents’ resistance towards their children is their attempts to reward them from the state of helplessness and confusion of encountering a new world with new laws – trying to get them used not to be based on their own helplessness, but with the power to convince them that being helpless and confused is not acceptable, and that it is better for them, Get over the world quickly, otherwise bad things will happen to them.
But it is not possible to reach any degree of maturity without going through the initial helplessness.
Many parents do not understand the experience of being a lost, confused and helpless child in a world that seemingly has its own fixed order.
One actor who understood the confusion and helplessness of children is a confused Yuval
In an interview, he answered the question: What kind of child were you?
“In my childhood I was a closed, different and introverted child, and the songs I write I write for that child who was bad at sports. A child who doesn’t have much, but it doesn’t matter because the most important thing is your inner self, ‘the main thing is that you are happy in your soul’. As a child I would escape to the world of imagination. There I found myself a superhero. Because I was rejected and not accepted then I imagined myself a superhero. Later I developed a sense of humor and was the class clown, but I never had a girlfriend. It’s good, because all these deprivations and these ignorances that will always accompany me help me create and be more sensitive towards other children.”
In conclusion, we cannot get out of this state of helplessness because this is the basic state of man in the world. Helpless.
We should not cover the lack of salvation with shells of false certainty.
Just showering compassion and empathy on the heads of our helpless children and friends.
Gabriel Ream
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Gabriel