Part one: On psychotherapy and psychiatry.
Physical doctors are excellent professionals when it comes to treating physical injuries and some illness.
But when it comes to soul injuries there is mainly ignorance.
Here it should be emphasized that the main group of the population which is deemed to suffers from what I call here: as soul injuries are what are called highly sensitive persons.
Although there is no shortage of well trained psychotherapists and psychiatrists – they rely on two non-effective approaches: The psychotherapist are relying almost completely on the tool of words exchange, ‘Words, words, words. ‘This was Hamlet’s reply to Polonius’ question, ‘What do you read, my lord?’ (Shakespeare, 1603) [1]. by repeating the word three times, Hamlet suggests that what he is reading is meaningless.
If an affinity in communication was not created between the two, than the words by themselves alone were “The Emperor’s New Clothes”: meaningless, flat, carry no message beyond themselves, words for words sake, words not as messengers to decipher the hidden inner kingdom of the soul.
And the psychiatrist are relying {in the better case} on psychiatric medications which at best are blurring and anesthetizing the perception of the treated individual, this is at best, at the worst case (mainly of severe depression) they might administer an electrical shock straight into their brain.
In the psychiatric fields it is generally believed that Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) can provide rapid, significant improvements in severe symptoms of several mental health conditions. ECT is used to treat: Severe depression, particularly when accompanied by detachment from reality (psychosis), a desire to commit suicide or refusal to eat.
But ECT can cause severe and permanent memory loss, brain damage, suicide, cardiovascular complications, intellectual impairment and even death. As of early 2017, the WA Chief Psychiatrist’s ECT Guidelines recommended ECT consent form, states: “In some people, memory loss may be severe and can even be permanent.”
Treated people who suffer on the soul level is an uncharted territory. The attempt to produce specialist to this mysterious field, in the same way that there are specialist for heart or lungs transplant is vain and has no scientific backup and a record of success.
And at best it is harmless at worse it is harmful.
If The psychiatrist and psychotherapist would come out and admit that their field is still experimental, and thus their risk taking would be restricted to minimum – it could be tolerated, but this is not the way they present themselves to the poor suffering human coming to them pleading for help – they come out fully confident in their very high status, after many years of study and specialization, accepting and demanding full trust and full obedience. Their power of control over the life of the people who are under their supervision is almost unlimited, and the establishment in society gives them full credit, backup and support.
When it comes to the soul crisis that the suffering human is under –mostly the authorized professionals don’t know what brought them to be in this serious state, except some speculations.
When the suffering human on a soul level reaches a point when it is unbearable for him, and he does not want to suffer any more, instead of it being viewed it as a conclusion of clear minded individual who calculated the degree of suffering and measurers them against ending his or here’s life – we know that in many cases If an animals suffers too much – it is considered to get the noble redeeming act that puts it out of its miseries.
But when it cone to the same thing but in the soul level suffering of a human – all the authorized diploma currieries professionals in the fiend of soul broken human – stand on their back legs so to speak, to prevent this poor suffering soul; from redeeming itself from their suffering.
A tragic decryption of such situation is in the amazing book: The shoot horses don’t they?
Part Two: Alienation
Now, reading all this, two questions rises: one, what causes this terrible soul injuries to the highly sensitive indevilusls, ans second: how to help? What cam help or at least ease some of their soule creises and suffureings?
Well, first in short and than more extensively.
The anwer to the first question to their miserable life and sufferings that they live in aggressive, cpmpettative alienatetated which worships aversness and sucsess. Society with the disapearing comofidity of humanity. And the shighly sensitive – because of their sensitive soul get injured badly by it.
And the answer to the second Question: what would be done is: Comapassion.
Now to the first question: the cause is the general loss of humanity in most people in this society. It happens between one another as a process of deterioration, like in an experiences of an Alzheimer disease, the patient never recovers, he never gets better and the disease never stops. Our disease is alienation, the slow disintegration and degeneration of humanity between and towards one another.
We know about personal diseases, which leads to death, but we don’t’ know of disease which strikes whole populations, a disease that one of its symptoms is a dementia of the attitude towards the other. Alienation is a slow, crawling death, like the freezing of a person, first it is the external organs; the nose, the ears, the fingers tips, and then it crawls in, until it reaches the heart and lungs.
In the process of alienation, is not felt, because the thing about losing humanity is that it is based on the loosing of sensitivity and awareness towards the other, which means that it happens in us without us being aware of it because as it happiness we loss the very organs through which we could feel the lose…
And now to what could be done, at least to ease the terrible outcome on the highly sensitive? The answer is: compassion.
Part three: Compassion
It feels ridiculous writing about compassion in the way of writing about air or water.
And why it might feel ridiculous?
There is one big paradox in this issue.
Here is a side of the paradox:
From one end, if we can measure somehow the intensity and urgency of all the crying, anguish and suffering that surface above and out of mainly highly sensitive people – the cry for compassion – would be so loud that it will be tearing apart the soul of anyone hearing it.
From the other end, if we looked around the world with the most powerful spotlights and the most miniature flashlight – looking for droplets of compassion – there would be either none or hardly any.
Very scarce, very rare, it is a disappearing commodity.
Animals know how: when one elephant is wounded, all the others try to pick it up.
Herd of Elephants Helps an Elephant Calf after Collapsing on the Road
If a dog owner is suffering or crying, it licks his face, but with us, it is so challenging until it seems that we have lost or forgotten the ability to do it. And what’s more, we do not associate any importance to it.
Someone may come to you pleading for it, their eyes crying for compassion while in a great crisis. But we are paralyzed, as though they asked us to talk in a foreign language. But what we have immediately in a replacement are: advice. Oh, we are not short of advices. Wherever there is a crying need for compassion – there are dozens of practical pieces of advice which are no more than perfect fig leafs…
Everyone has advice, but a tiny drop of compassion?
Women still preserve some of this ability, but generally, like as it was written about in the chapter abbot the disappearance of humanity – the disappearing process of compassion is almost done. Now the world is almost entirely void and empty of kindness to the psychological and existential sufferings of the sensitive other.
And if someone practices compassion – there are no applauses, no thanks – as though nothing extraordinary happened. In this alienated world, it is being perceived with great apathy and avoidance.
It is absent and missing everywhere, but mostly it is shouting in agony in specific places:
- Hospitals: nurses and doctors are there to help the suffering sick people –they help the body but forget the soul, the treat the suffering human being with a cold and purely technical attitude.
A quote of mine:
“When they take care of me physically or technically without it being accompanied by compassion or empathy – they are torturing and tormenting my soul”.
- Psychiatrists and psychologists: the clients are coming in emotional pain and suffering: how much compassion is taking place in the session? What good is all their learning if their practice does not include more than 50% compassion?
- From grownup children towards their aging (and often with deteriorating health) parents? How much compassion is there towards them? Instead, they are fulfilling a duty and doing what is expected. But unconditioned spontaneous compassion? No.
- When we come across a suffering human or one that is going through a crisis: compassion should burst out of us immediately like a great Geyser, bursting out to reach out, hug and embrace the poor suffering person – until the tremendous compassion will hug soul and bring in some healing, peace, and comfort.
- And most people believe that if someone is acting out a great act of compassion towards a suffering relative or friend – they do not deserve any special thanks.
And I would like to share a personal story to do with this no thanks for compassion:
A woman in her 60s in Cornwall England, had a boyfriend for many years, he reached his middle 70th. And one day he got ill with Alzheimer’s disease. It progressed quickly, and he was utterly helpless and dependent very soon.
He had relatives, and his girlfriend could have left him or arranged for him to move to an institute. But she deserted everything in her life and became entirely devoted to this meat lump (because that is all he is by now) for 24 hours per day.
They had friends, and only a few were there for him, and she got hardly any appreciated for what she was doing.
I heard about it from a familiar friend, and I asked him to pass to her my admiration and great wonderment at the incredible compassion she is giving to her poor partner. He passed my message to her, and her response was one: she could not stop crying, for there was one person in this world who has some measure of her sacrifices and fully appreciates its actual value.
So, my moral here is: that even if some people do have compassion, they are still in great need of confirmation and credit for it. If we do the noblest things, we still need recognition and support from our fellowmen.
Everyone who performs the noble most human act of compassion needs and deserves a credit.
A poem:
God has pity on kindergarten children
God has pity on kindergarten children,
He pities school children less.
But adults, he pities not at all.
He abandons them,
And sometimes they have to crawl on four
In the scorching sand
To reach the to the first aid station,
Streaming with blood.
But perhaps
He will have pity on those who love truly
And take care of them
And shade on them
Like a tree over a couple on the public bench.
Perhaps even we will spend on them
Our last pennies of kindness
Inherited from our mother,
So that their own love will protect us
Now and on other days.
A poem by Yehuda Amichai
Gabriel