There are people who when they enter some place people notice them, meaning that if there is a line of people and they stand at the end of the line people notice them and there is even a person who will move aside and tell him, stand in front of me. Or even a person at the beginning of the line will tell him, bypass the whole line and be first.
Now the same person whose turn is turned over doesn’t understand why it’s happening to him? But people notice him. They don’t know what they notice, but there is something about it that catches their attention, so they make room for it. He doesn’t look different from anyone else but they notice him, something about him catches their attention. You can call it charisma, presence, magnetism, face exclusion. They notice him and something in them makes them relate to him.
He looks perfectly normal but he is radiating something. A little four-year-old girl can suddenly look at him for long minutes, smile and not know why she’s looking at him.
If he comes to a place in some capacity, say a lecturer, he is immediately noticed. Immediately someone approaches him and says, ‘Are you the lecturer?’ There is nothing in him that indicates that he is the lecturer, but there is something in him that suggests that he must be the lecturer.
When he enters a cafe he receives special treatment; They don’t spread a carpet in front of him, they don’t pour him more coffee, but he gets special treatment. The smile of someone across the counter may be a little wider, she may be kinder, she will pay more attention to him. She will pay more attention. She won’t know why but something about him will give her a feeling that she would like to be more helpful towards him. There might be some kind of human warmth in him, some humanity in him, something in him that would touch her and she wouldn’t know what.
Even though he looks normal, you can’t be indifferent to him, there is something about him that neutralizes indifference and in other words he is special without behaving in a special way and here is the catch. If he behaved in a special way, dressed in a special way, walked in a special way, stood in a special way, spoke in a special way, with a loud voice – that would not be wisdom. The whole thing is that he’s really, really, really unattractive, and yet there’s something human about him that attracts attention. Something in his presence that is so lacking in ordinary people makes him notice because people are usually absent of presence while he is full of presence. His approach to people is full of empathy, full of humanity, he pays attention to everyone, and people need it so much that’s why they pay attention to him and that’s why they ask him if he needs anything, it’s a return to humanity where they are not aware of it but they must respond because something in them that You don’t even know that he exists, he needs what he is so full of, and that is humanity.
Again, you can call it face exclusion, charisma, presence, magnetism, but this is missing in people who are faceless, the people of everyone like everyone else, similar to each other but there is something special about them. In him there is humanity, a human attitude and reference that includes the other. There is a presence and people must tell him you will bypass the queue, you will be in front, something in him urges them to put him at the head of the queue and they have no idea why they are doing this and it is his soul that makes them have to treat him, they cannot deny because the soul is so lacking in all the unique people they meet. That’s why they turn his turn.
Gabriel Ream
31.12.23
Gabriel