Scapegoat

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There are families, groups or gangs that have a scapegoat. One that serves as a grounding conduit for the frustrations, difficulties and grievances of the majority.
The greater the load of personal difficulties of a company, group or family, the more they will ‘search’ (unconsciously of course) for a drainage pipe through which they can get rid of the anguish, tensions and difficulties that float in the air, between and within people.
It happens in almost every group, family or gang. And the difficulties will always be magnetized to the weak link. Weak in terms of the ability to get along in life and society as it is. But as far as they are concerned and in relation to their souls, they are quite restful, gentle and sensitive.
Such a person is destined to serve as an ideal drainage pipe for the house full of tensions, for the problematic family, for the disjointed group, etc.
Guilt floats in the air, guilt is looking for a home, for someone who will accept her and declare her: “This is mine”.
And in this he becomes a victim.
And then he goes through his life with the weight of guilt resting on his narrow shoulders. An intense feeling of: ‘I’m not well’. And with a strong tendency to punish himself in one way or another.
And if at this point someone doesn’t come out to fight for him and show him that what appear to be stains of shame, are nothing but pebbles and gems of an overflowing soul, he will go and destroy himself, through complexes, psychoses and depressions.
(As soon as the weak link in an organization, group, gang or family – breaks down and is ready to take the blame – there is relief (completely unconscious of course) among the normative majority).
And the paradox in this is that it is the drain pipes that have the rest of the spirit, the sensitive and refined among us. It is believed that in order to be a drainage pipe for wastewater, the object or person must be coarse or low level. And here it is the opposite.
And that says something about the face of the company. who raises cows in pens and dugouts, separates carts from their parents within a few hours, (despite the cries of the cows that have just given birth) and is cruel to chickens who spend all their days in narrow cages, in order to take the eggs from them. Details in the following article:
http://www.haaretz.co.il/magazine/1.1807145
Kills male chicks by letting them suffocate in one big pile. more and more. But the packaging always shows nature, vegetables and happy cows in a meadow.
The same society is also able to take the spiritual and those with high mental potential and turn them into scapegoats, drain pipes.
And those who have become drainpipes will do so on the condition that they agree with the opinion of the majority that what is special about them is not special but spoiled, which will lead them to doubt themselves. And thus they allowed ‘I’m not okay’ to dwell within them.
As soon as they stop doubting themselves, but see themselves through the good eye, which sees the social disadvantage as a mental advantage, they will start to stop destroying themselves.
In fact in every constellation; Social/group/family – there is an important functional function for the subtle mind; They tend to drain through them the charges of antagonism, frictional hostility, etc., of the normative majority.
In the olden days pagan and pre-pagan society offered human sacrifices to ‘appease the wrath of the gods’ and make their lives better. Usually these were virgins or young children, (as if the pure sacrifice would atone for the sins of the less pure). Later it became less cruel and they settled for animal sacrifice (a goat is a goat, a scapegoat).
There are 2 ways in which the group/organization/family, etc., can handle a person with the rest of his spirit. One way is, as mentioned, to direct blame towards him and put a label on him that he will not succeed, and then he is already on the way to self-destruction by accepting the guilt of: ‘I am not okay’.
The second way is to see it as special, sublime, and perhaps even as a way of redemption for many, through the resources of the soul and spirit that those individuals carry with them.
Of course, for that to happen, those individuals must be well-known artists, writers, playwrights. But if they did not succeed in the field of art, it will be very difficult for others to continue treating him as special.
Mental hospitals are full of people who, at the beginning of their journey, had a potential soul but did not withstand the environmental pressure to surrender, to break, to go against themselves. Then they just collapsed within themselves, their boundaries (internal and external) did not stand up to the burden of guilt of ‘I’m not okay’.
In the absence of people who will treat him as a special god, (thus removing the burden of guilt from him) he has no choice but to go against himself and declare himself as unequal, as a fringe and fringe of the normative rule.
That’s why it’s so important that the delicate of soul will not under any circumstances agree to ‘examine themselves’, to internalize the words: “I’m not okay”, he must put the blame back into the air so that those who are less delicate of soul will puzzle over what to do with the burden of guilt all the time spinning in the air
If there are too few people willing to take the blame (by the way, it can also be an enemy of a state, or the Jews who during the entire exile were used as a drainage pipe, etc., or a certain party) – we will find that the polarization in the population is between: conservatives, or capitalists , right-wing, or nationalist, and on the other side the liberals, leftists, etc. It will get worse.
Many individuals with the remaining spirit have found a way to get rid of the burden of guilt and they join liberal groups such as ‘animal cruelty’, the ‘greens’, socialists, etc. and there they fight the ideological war of the group to which they belong. Then the blame will be spread among many others and he can get from his belonging group an identity and support, which will not allow him to descend into ‘I’m not okay’.
And so it turns out that the situation is that the majority is in political and ideological disagreements (for example: capitalists and socialists) and in the middle there is a minority with a great and huge soul who does not join the humanist/liberal faction – and thus is not willing to give up his individual uniqueness, and then he has no choice but to take the blame Personally. Which means that during his life he will move in unequal fluctuations, between feeling special and having the rest of his spirit, and between feeling guilty and “I’m not okay”. Which means: a life of suffering and self-stigma.

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Gabriel Ream, September 5, 2012