Psychology is an invented field. Until the 19th century it almost did not exist. There was folk medicine, wise men, exorcisms and consultation with leading spiritual men. But penetration into the mysteries of the soul itself came on stage only not long ago.
And suddenly, like the cell phone, you can’t do without it – the psychologists are busy and people with various personal difficulties flock to them, as if the psychologist has unique tools that can only be used to treat certain complaints.
Until Freud’s time, even the term psychological problems was not known. As if out of nowhere a huge continent rose up to her.
People advise each other to take treatment as if it were a painkiller. There is a conviction among the public that among the tools of a psychologist there is a magic potion that during the treatments the mental problems disappear.
Today we see the field of psychology as a successful occupation by science of the field of personal problems, a solution and making order in the chaos of the personal problems of a person’s inner life.
But the field of human mental life is complicated and convoluted and there is no clear and unequivocal solution at the end of which there is recovery. As in treating physical problems.
When treating the body, the doctor knows exactly what was wrong until now and what improvement has been achieved by the treatment. But this is not the case when it comes to mental health care. Things are much less clear cut. Despite the permission the therapist receives from the patient – a mental problem is not like surgery to remove an infected organ. The spaces of the mind are full of ambiguity like entering a very tangled jungle.
The current period heaps more difficulties especially on sensitive and special people who do not find their place in an alienated, competitive society for whom success in life is the name of the game.
Our era is busy and full of requirements for success, requirements that make it difficult for the sensitive to integrate into the prevailing conformity. And therefore in a period dedicated to success and normative behavior – special people flock to psychologists trusting in the healing and help they will receive there.
Going to the psychologist when there are mental problems is considered acceptable and we no longer hide the treatment we receive. It is almost considered desirable. Here is a man working on himself.
But by and large, the field of psychology is almost ineffective for the individual looking for help. It’s not like a hospital where you go in sick and come out healthy. Psychologists have no tools to penetrate the depths of the tormented soul.
Many patients remain during and after treatment with their distress. The therapist keeps a distance, tries not to get involved in the patient’s difficulties. Trying to be neutral. But the patient needs the opposite. He desperately needs compassion, caring and empathy. Or at least to a true friend. But there are few psychologists who feel sincere empathy with the patient’s plight. So for the desperate patient if there is no empathy and participation from the therapist, then the patient leaves with a deep sense of frustration.
However there are two medications that can help. One is called love and the other is friendship.
True love is hard to find, especially for people with a certain uniqueness in their souls. The greater the uniqueness of the love seeker, the harder it will be for him to find love.
Although for most people in the middle of the road it is easier to find a partner. But if a person with a peculiarity or mental problems finds love – it is truly the most wonderful thing in the world. Rare but wonderful.
True love is rare, but when you find it, there is no treasure more precious than it.
Now for friendship: the simplest friendship is worth ten times more than any psychologist, even though the psychologist is supposed to be like a true friend to the patient. And not just doing work for a living.
Friendship can put two different people on the same frequency. It is an intimacy that is hard to describe. Friendship between a psychologist and a patient must include intimacy and mental closeness. And if the patient has friends they can be more helpful than many therapists.
In the end there is no substitute for true love and true friendship. And a psychologist cannot take their place, but what he can do is be empathetic, and full of compassion and true caring. You have found such a therapist, you have found a treasure.
Gabriel Ream
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