A known and good looking Israeli actress, was interviewed for a documentary on her life, called: “Aliza” (here is only the trailer).
In one of the scenes (in which she must be probably in her 40th) they came to talk about Asex. And she said that she is not having sex. “For how long you are not having sex”? Asked the interviewer, “for 9 years” she answered. “And if you get attracted to a good looking man, and you do want to have sex with him, what would you do”? She was asked, and her answer was: “I will stop myself”. “Why”? Asked the interviewer. “I don’t want to get hurt”, was her answer.
This is one of the most shaking & shocking texts that I ever had the chance to be exposed to.
To what extent is it true for other women? And for how many? Who continue to have sex, and still feel as hurt as her?
To what an extent are this words of the woman in the documentary, are the secret words of many women that don’t even dare to think those words for themselves, but deep inside, this text of hers is also their own text?
And if she is a mouth to many more women who are silent – maybe it is because men treat them during the intercourse as objects? Maybe they are not sensitive enough to them? Maybe the man are over dominant and not cooperative? Maybe there is no affinity, no personal consideration? No intimacy?
(And there are researches that indicates that younger women spend more time attending to men’s sexual needs than their own).
And when a woman, is out of the picture (not being related to) as a human being (but as a sexual object) – it hurts.
How many men have any idea at all that the avoidance of their woman partners of sex (if it exists) are from this reason? (It hurts, and not physically…).
I searched the internet for this feeling that Aliza (the actress) was talking about: refusing to have sex because of being hurt – and there is no mention for this, only pains in the vagina during the sexual intercourse.
(If what the actress said is not one few isolated incidents)
The bottom line?
There is great injustice going on here, and as usual, women are the victims.
Gabriel