Every once in a while a special, unique, human being with a spark is born.
But there is a difference between what kind of special man are born and between special women by birth.
The special high spark man are very different from the general average conditioned man. They are sensitive, gentle, and full of humanity and care towards their human brothers.
Now, what about born special unique woman who are carrying a high spark?
How should they be if they are true to themselves and to their high calling?
What would be the nature of a woman as she was meant to be by her original and authentic nature as a woman?
In this culture most of those womanhood characteristics are not considered much, because they give a feeling of weakness and we are based on overpowering and competing with each other. It is a combating man’s territory. You have to win the other, otherwise you are looser. As she is in the culture – she is considered a loser.
But when a women get connected to their core authentic womanhood, only then, can they be in touch with their real female being.
Part one: power:
The first characteristic of a woman as she was supposed to be and should aspire towards is: being powerful.
But the power i am referring to is a different kind of power than what we are used to, i will call it ‘a blue warrior’.
So what is special about the blue warrior, what sets him apart from just any warrior?
The being warrior is driven by a code of respect and principles and not by emotions.
He is not emotionally swept, he is not controlled by aggressive emotions and therefore also does not lose control and does not erupt – which allows him to maintain composure and restraint and not to reveal weaknesses.
He is not swept into a confrontation, not dragged into a confrontation because of emotional provocations or humiliation. And when he is already confronted, he does so because of violating a code or principle.
He always fights with clear tactics. For example, he does not let the opponent dictate the conditions of the battle-field and he does not play on the field defined by the opponent. In other words, he does not take on the opponent’s approach (accusations, starting point) and operates the war on the opponent’s home territory. But takes the opponent out of his home court and transfers the confrontation to his own court.
He has the ability to absorb humiliation and insult himself without reacting to it, since he is driven not by impulsive emotions, but by principles. His advanced abilities allow him to respond on his own terms.
He does not go into battle for any nonsense, he is very selective about the conflicts he chooses to get into.
The guiding criterion for him is to confront only when there is no other way. He does not mind losing in a confrontation that is not a principle issue for him. When he goes into battle, he goes out to win and to win in the end – but for that he is willing to suffer losses along the way. And again, what motivates him is not the hurt ego or hurt emotion.
His war style is clean, precise and balanced.
His war is not a mess – No blood splattering everywhere, uncontrollable outbursts, and beatings under the belt or mudslides.
He does not involve ego and emotions in this war – but once he feels that someone is targeting him with hostility and attacks him in order to harm – he is willing to go against the opponent without hesitation.
One book who was attempted to discover such deep essential nature of the woman was written by: Clarissa Pinkola Estés, called: “Women Who Run with the Wolves”: In which he likens the deep nature of a woman to that of a wild wolf:
“She claims that within every woman there lives a powerful force, filled with good instincts, passionate creativity, and ageless knowing. She is the Wild Woman, who represents the instinctual nature of women. But she is an endangered species. For though the gifts of wildish nature belong to us at birth, society’s attempt to “civilize” us into rigid roles has muffled the deep, life-giving messages of our own souls”.
Part two:
The other quality is in being unconditioned about her intelligence by the general social approach that tends to treat women as stupid… and a real woman who is authentic to her womanhood – is having naturally high level of intelligence. But not a conventional one, but one that goes against conventional thinking, they break walls of one dimensional perception and are able to discover a hidden unknown truth. This are women on a high level of intelligence, which should be a hallmark and a recognition signal for being an authentic woman, she must be intelligent, but the kind of intelligence that causes them to be able to think for themselves.
The intelligence of authentic women is like ‘Sherlock Holmes’ approach to what is ahead of him; An intelligent woman must have a detective in her; examining searching eyes, questioning mind, thirst for understanding, hunger for truth, and sensitivity for subtext. This should have been unconditioned in her by masculine norms.
To be a detective in the darkness which surrounds us all, from within and from without.
But the main problem in this is for each special, high spark man or woman is to find the right mach.
Because if you are are a born high spark woman, you could only have life with a high spark man.
He is looking for power and intelligence, and she is looking for the gentle, full of compassion and humanity all over.
The chances for such a match between two such unique human beings os rare.
Being born a woman is my awful tragedy… Yes, my consuming desire to mingle with road crews, sailors and soldiers, bar room regulars–to be a part of a scene, anonymous, listening, recording–all is spoiled by the fact that I am a girl, a female always in danger of assault and battery. My consuming interest in men and their lives is often misconstrued as a desire to seduce them, or as an invitation to intimacy. Yet, God, I want to talk to everybody I can as deeply as I can. I want to be able to sleep in an open field, to travel west, to walk freely at night…
-Sylvia Plath
Gabriel